Research shows that kids who can make decisions, problem-solve and calm down in stressful situations and everyday tasks are more likely to do better in school and become successful adults. Try the healthy techniques below to help yourself, or your child, deal with challenges in a positive way.

How to Calm Yourself Down:

1.      Stop and Think.

2.      Ask Yourself:

         How does my body feel?

3.      Try:

         Taking three deep breaths

         Counting backward slowly

         Thinking calm thoughts

         Talking to yourself

How to Solve Problems:

            1.  What is the problem?

2.      What are some solutions?

3.      For each solution, ask yourself:

         Is it safe?

         How might people feel about it?

         Is it fair?
         Will it work?

4.      Choose a solution and use it.

5.      Is it working?          Yes

         If not, what can I do now?

What to Do When You Are Angry:

            STOP and THINK.

            1.  Ask yourself:

         How does my body feel?

2.      Try to calm down by:

         Taking three deep breaths

         Counting backward slowly

         Thinking calm thoughts

         Talking to yourself

3.      Think out loud to solve the problem.

4.      Think about it later.  Ask yourself:

         Why was I angry?  What did I do?  What worked?  What didn’t work?  What would I do differently?  Did I do a good job?   

The skills above are elements of the Second Step violence prevention curriculum, which is taught in most Livingston County schools and supported by Genesee Valley Health Partnership. For more information, please call (585) 615-4381.